The real question

A friend of mine is going to break up the woman he is seeing because she has no ambition, she works in a bar, he's a city banker, and to be honest at first thought I absolutely agreed with him. If it's a problem now then surely somewhere down the line it'll be a problem again, right? Good on him for looking for someone who meets his requirements. But I realised today that there was a crucial question I never asked 'is she happy' you might think what does it matter? But the truth is it matters more than anything else, because finding where we fit in this world is the hardest thing we ever have to do, if she moans about her job 24\7 but still does it then shame on her, but if she loves it and is happy and donning a pencil skirt and heals to go add up numbers in some office would make her ridiculously miserable than surely her happiness is paramount.
I have to confess, I have only had one job I really liked, it was as a barmaid! I was happy being with the punters, the regulars and joking with my friends, no I didn't want to do it forever but I wonder how much of that was to do with my own ambitions as opposed to the fact that all my friends moved on, so, so did I.
Finding a job that makes you happy isn't that easy for everyone and other peoples prejudices definitely play apart, for example I know a person with a great career whose worked bloody hard for it but whose not entirely happy and if I'm honest I think would love to do something else, but they can't, they've put too much into it already, it would be a waste, yes? Or is the waste doing something you dislike for the rest of your life? I can't even think about the fact that I have to go to work for the next 35 years, doing this?! But when do you decided to jump, how far is too far in to get out?
I know loads of people who have degrees in entirely unrelated subjects to the job they do now, and I always hear people say these 4 words 'what was the point?' Well I'll tell you, we had a bloody good time, drank a shit load of alcohol and made friends that will hopefully stick around for life, as for the degree well let's be honest that was just plodding along somewhere on the sidelines, the point is that the only person this should be relevant to is you (plus the fact that we may be one of the last generations to get away with it, student life certainly wasn't cheap or easy but it was nothing compared to what it is now)! My husband thinks I just dislike working, but he's wrong, I love being busy, helping people, meeting people and I would LOVE if I could find a job that actually involved some writing and creativity, unfortunately this appears harder than throwing pine nuts at fireflies!
I may never find my place and that saddens me. More than anything, maybe I'll plod around a bit more, have children and never really work again, fabulous, right? Only I actually do want a career, it's just starting to feel like there isn't a career that wants me.

To change or not to change?

This weekend we found ourselves in London, visiting some of our many friends who have relocated there. It got us wondering about our next move. While the delights of village life have been calling to us recently a weekend in the big smoke made us go back to thoughts of taking ourselves down there for a while. The pro's and con's, well:

London - pro's:
- More money
- Great social life
- More job opportunities for the future
- See more of our southern friends
- Shopping
- Living the fast life

London - con's:
- More expensive
- Would have to rent
- Busy life
- Away from our family and friends in the midlands
- Not sure our little cat would like it

Here - pro's
- Owning our own home
- Friends and family
- Countryside
- Affordable
- Could get more pets :)

Here - con's
- Less opportunities job wise
- Never lived anywhere but here
- Maybe a little too comfortable?

Ok so the pro's and con's lists are not great and if you think about it logically staying here is the best option and makes most sense, but when your young you don't always do the things that make the most sense, there is much thinking to be done, and while my dreams about the little house in country are what calm me at night, my concerns remain that I am young and want to make the very most of my life, all of it. I suppose time will tell.......